I was flipping through channels and came across a show on Spike TV. I have no idea what made me stop, but the question was posed, "How do I make my woman less bitchy?" The answer? Have sex with her. Not only that, but they said that women who have sex without a condom are generally 30% happier, unless they get pregnant, so you should keep it on so you don't have to deal with THAT bitchiness. Yes, they did say that.
This ignorance is what keeps men sexually objectifying women, creating hostile environments which lead to degradation, harassment, and even rape. Saying that sex is what "fixes" women leads men to believe they have power over women, because men provide women sex, of course. This is a TV network dedicated to men. If men watch this, although I'm assuming only a certain demographic of less educated men would be watching to begin with, they will believe and follow the ideas presented to them.
What I find is that women are so desperate to please men (we are socialized to do so) that they put up with this garbage and treat other women, and themselves, as objects. To quote Mean Girls (yes, I went there), "If you call each other sluts and whores it only makes it ok for guys to call you sluts and whores." It is so true. Women truly need to come together in order to make a serious effort. That being said, while men still hold the majority of the power, they need to be educated as well. Let's start with removing the name calling of women, and thinking they need sex to solve their "bitchy" problems, on male-geared TV. Although it's not much better on female-geared TV either. In those shows women fall head over heels for the jerk too. The only difference is that these shows lead women to believe that men will change for you. How about a show that promotes the nice guy that doesn't have to change so you can live happily-ever-after with him?
If I were treated in an objectified way, I'd be a bitch too. Actually, I'm probably considered a bitch for writing this. How do we solve this bitchiness of mine? Not sex.
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Ice Cream and a back massage! That will usually do the trick for me. Or better yet, asking me what is wrong (or bitchy, I guess). Anyway, I think you would enjoy a short story from the Decameron in which the storyteller begins his story by promising he will tell you what women REALLY want...he claims it is sex. While I have no issues with sex, I would like to believe that I am not so single-minded. The novella is rather funny, though. So I will post a link to an English translation so that you can read it if you want.
ReplyDeletehttp://www.stg.brown.edu/projects/decameronNew/DecShowText.php?myID=nov0210&expand=day02&lang=eng
That link so did not work...
ReplyDeletehmm it works for me. try this one:
ReplyDeletehttp://www.brown.edu/Departments/Italian_Studies/dweb/dec_ov/dec_ov.shtml
if that doesnt work either give up or google "decameron web" then click text. there will be the option of english or italian, pick whichever you prefer, and then day 2 story 10.