The Rules of Dating

A while back my dad made a Facebook post about the rules of dating. He doesn't understand why they exist. To him, these rules make dating a game. Me? I think I agree with him. Except I don't even know what the rules of dating are. If by chance the rules did turn dating into a game, this is the world I'm living in. I have to play the game if I want to find love, or the semblance of it.

So, what are the rules of dating? I heard something a few weeks ago along the lines of "He gets 2-3 days to call/text you." Well, that's great. Then what? Is it actually ok for a woman to initiate conversation? In this day and age it seems like a silly question. Then I think about how it used to be. I wasn't around for it, but it seems as if men tried to impress girls. My recent experiences tell me that men are lazy or not courageous enough to make 100% effort. Sensitive guys are great, but I'm a stereotypical woman when it comes to dating. Unless you show me you're interested, I'm pretending I don't see how cute you are. I'm enough of a nervous wreck for the both of us. You don't have to be too. There's something to be said about traditional romance. Mainly because it actually has romance.

In an attempt to figure out the dating rules, I asked my friends to name them. I got a wide range of responses. Interestingly, the only clear cut answers came from two straight guys, which is perfect for me, being a straight girl. One of these men provided me an entire list, but the list seemed more like human decency than rules for dating. Being open and honest? Good communication? Listen? Everyone deserves that. The other simply said, "there are no rules." Those are two very different answers. What is a girl like me supposed to do now? I'm not going to be the girl that asks men their philosophy on this stuff. I can't think of a faster way to lose a guy (maybe, not bringing that stuff up is a dating rule).

All of this led me to the conclusion that we're setting ourselves up for failure. We are attempting to follow dating rules that no one actually knows, and everyone's interpretation of these apparent rules is different. It only leads to mass confusion and broken hearts. If we have to date by the rules, I propose we actually have rules we can follow. Or better yet, how about that human decency thing: just be open and honest. If we can do that, maybe the next time I meet someone with potential I'll know what to expect, saving my ipod from having to play "Foolish Games" and other awesomely bad songs during my bouts of insomnia.

What is the opposite of escalator?

The topic of conversation we had today at the mall:

Escalators should only go up. You can't escalate going down...


Originally we thought cascade referred to going down, so we called a going down escalator a "cascadalator." After googling, though, cascade is not correct terminology.

We can call the going down escalator a "descalator." DESCending escALATOR. I'm not a fan of that though. The opposite of descend is ascend. It's not called an ascendalator.

I still don't know of a better name. Thoughts?